Cunnilingus - Oral Sex Tips For Men For Mind Blowing Orgasms

Watercolour painting depicting cunnilingus by Achille Devéria

Watercolour painting depicting cunnilingus by Achille Devéria. Image: Wikimedia Commons.

Cunnilingus has the potential to give women immense satisfaction and highly satisfying orgasms if performed correctly.

Many women actually find that they can climax easier from Cunnilingus than full sexual intercourse.

To learn how to perform cunnilingus takes some practice, but anyone can become skilled in the art of oral satisfaction and we have outlined some tips below to help.

Oral Techniques

Starting oral sex

To commence cunnilingus try the following:

Lick your partner's vaginal entrance up her clitoris.

Then follow the outer edges of the vagina.

Make sure you cover both sides.

Going up and down each side this is a great way to start oral sex and get your partner relaxed for further pleasure.

The Labial

Hold the two parts together and make sure you do this gently with your lips.

Next run your tongue between the inner and outer labia, one side at a time and then repeat this motion.

Inside the vagina - Tongue intercourse

The majority of nerve endings in the vagina are located at the opening and this sensitivity extends a couple of inches inside.

When performing cunnilingus target these areas.

Insert your tongue into the vagina.

Probe with your tongue then try licking with circular motions and try flicks with your tongue as well.

Spread the outer vaginal lips gently apart with your fingers.

With your tongue stiff and pointed try licking and flicking the tongue across your partners clitoris and also insert it into the vagina.

A word of caution

Go gently with the above.

Many women can be very sensitive and you should ask for direction about how hard you go when doing this.


Expose the clitoris by spreading her lips and next expose the hood.

Take the clitoris in your mouth gently and suck it.

Let the clitoris go and then repeat again.

This is a huge turn on for most women and also adds the element of frustration to highlight the pleasure.

The A - B - C Technique

Spell the alphabet when performing cunnilingus with your tongue.

This gives the tongue a variety of directions that it can go in and this variety can be a huge turn on.

You don't just use A - B - C use all the letters and ask which ones she finds the most exciting and keep them in mind for next time.

The exact technique for giving pleasure with cunnilingus will vary from woman to woman and the above is just a blueprint for you to use and explore with your partner

The key to finding exactly what your partner wants form cunnilingus is to communicate with her - Ask her what she wants, how she likes it and what is giving her pleasure.

Other points to keep in mind to make cunnilingus more satisfying for your partner are:

1. Make sure your mouth is moist

Fill your own mouth with as much saliva as you can, so that it is as moist as possible - Never use a dry tongue.

2. Don't go for the clitoris straightaway.

Make sure your partner is relaxed and aroused.

Try kissing and licking around the upper thighs and vulva area after some general foreplay and then work your way slowly to the clitoris.

3. Variety is the key.

If you repeat the same technique your partner will quickly become insensitive to it.

Keep in mind variety with Cunnilingus is essential as it is in all sexual acts as it adds to the excitement and anticipation. 4. Use your fingers as well

You can use your fingers in association with cunnilingus.

Try inserting a finger or two into her vagina as your partner becomes more aroused.

Cunnilingus is one of the most satisfying sexual experiences for women and you can do it correctly and give your partner mind blowing orgasms with a little practice and direction from your partner.

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Dear Missy, the "problem" is definately -not- you. Many men just don't like oral sex for more reasons than can be listed here. Trying to get him to perform might end up making him feel pressured and that might worsen the situuation. Have you tried something like playing with yourself while just watches? Or you could try to find videos that focus on both the woman and man's pleasures? One type is to find some videos that focus on 'girl on girl' sex, which will absolutely have a lot of very hot oral sex!
Another is Femme Productions, which is owned and run by former porn star Candida Royalle, they have very hot films with great production values.
They tend to focus on both people's pleasure and feelings, that is to say, you won't find 300 guy gang bangs or nothing but facial shots.
Lastly, try to look for those films that are from the "Golden Age' of porn, these were done with usually good stories, most of the folks could actually act. These films would be from the late '70's to the early to mid 80's all were shot on film -not- video.
Good luck Hon, here's hoping things get better, from now on.

MISSY,,,ever think your mans gay,, leave him..

Hey Missy,

I can help you out with your problem!! I love to lick satisfy my women any way I can Cunnilingus is my favorite thing to do and I don't come up for air for a long time!!!

How do I get my husband to enjoy doing this to me?
I look great and have a great ass. I can't figure out why he won't do this. He states that he just isn't that interested
in it. I totally love it and fantasize about it all of the time. My fantasy is about him doing this to me. He usmeed to perform this on me every once
in awhile. I've almost 'strayed' due to "lack-of". Actually almost strayed with another woman figuring that they definitely would know what to do.
How do I get him interested. Im all of the things that men commented on. I only have a slim line of short hair over the slit in my vulva. Im very clean and he always tells me I smell nice and that he's been with women who don't smell as good as I. I love to be aroused. When he lets me, I go to town on his penis. I love to lick it like an ice- cream cone and deep throat it,


do people actually have sex?

A technique my wife enjoys, even if not the variety of change, is the CLIT TWIRL as so...when the clitoris is fully erect and the labia and vaginal opening have had the attention they so richly deserve, I take her CLIT into my mouth and make circles around her it, alternating directions. To this I then add two fingers curled upward into her VAGINA to massage the G-SPOT, and when I feel her need, a finger into her ANUS which is making her to CUM so strongly that her ANUS squeezes tightly around my finger! If you try these things to your lover, she too will scream with pleasure.

Ask her to shave it completely off. This will be far more enjoyable for her as well as you.

I loved it. But I have question in my mind. How do you do it when your girl friend's vagina is full of pubic hair?